I wrote about Helga a couple of days ago, it seems she just can’t leave well enough alone. Now after all these years she claims that she was molested as a child by a relative. Huh???? Supposedly this is a recovered memory, which she recovered spontaneously after drinking a few beers and taking some pills. HUH??? Now she claims that her previous diagnosis is wrong and she now has PTSD with Night Terrors. HUH??? Helga has not gone to a Dr. in a long time, heck she didn’t even go when she was pregnant the last 2 times she just stole other peoples pre-natal vitamins. Why would she all of a sudden get up and go to the Doctor when she hasn’t gone before? More like she self diagnosed, which she has a track record of doing a lot. (She claims she was pre-med in college and attended the first 2 ½ yrs of med school before she had to drop out, she attended 3 semesters of college total and never took a medical class at all. Apparently just thinking that you went to college and med-school gives you lots of experience and the ability to diagnose and self-diagnose medical problems!) I feel for this girl yet I don’t feel for her, as all her problems she has brought on herself and she has no one to blame but herself! Yet she won’t accept that, so she blames everyone else, us included, for her life turning out the way it has. When I spoke/chatted with her she was actually upset at me for leaving her in the shelter, when I explained that I had no idea she was in a shelter she blew up and went on a rage ranting incoherently and generally throwing a fit, after which I explained to her that per our previous conversation with her and her parents and others from our church that she was no longer welcome at her parents’ home, our home, and the church would no longer give her money, instead they would buy formula and diapers for her child, they just wouldn’t give her money directly as she spends it on drugs & alcohol. And to avoid her returning the diapers and formula to the store for money they now cut out the UPC bar code or peel the labels off.
How many of us have a Helga in our lives or know of a Helga. What are you doing about it? Are you enabling him/her? Or have you cut them off, and are not giving them an out or someone to blame other than themselves? You need to be doing the latter! Cut them off make them accountable for their own actions, by doing so they will eventually hit rock bottom and when they do they will be forced to seek help! If they don’t and they die then at least you no longer have to worry about them anymore. I know that sounds harsh but trust me with someone like Helga it’s gonna take a lot to give her a wakeup call, as she has been doing this all her adult life. Let me add, when you do cut her off and make her accountable then you need to be prepared and to stand your ground. Once you start you can’t go back, you cannot back down ever if you do then you have lose and they win and then the problem gets worse. You need to be prepared for lots of yelling, screaming threats and possible even violence, if it does get violent or you are in fear of your life or hers then by all means call the police, she can always be arrested for making threats and if she is a threat to herself then they can declare her an EDP (emotionally disturbed person) and have her held on a 72 hour pysch-hold, which would probably be a good thing.
Well people gotta go for now, be careful, be safe and please if you have a Helga in your life get them help and don’t give them want they seek which is enabling! If you are a Helga or Henry THEN GET HELP NOW! AND DON’T BURDEN YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS (unless you need a ride to rehab) IT’S YOUR PROBLEM NOT THEIRS! You got yourself into it not them, Okay!
AND PLEASE DON’T FORGET READ TO YOUR KID EACH AND EVERYDAY!
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